By guest author Dr Laura Stuvé
The world needs the powerful healing we can uniquely provide in the safe and effective format of distance treatments. But a lot of people - family, friends, and clients - may be having a hard time believing in this, and aren't open. This doubt is understandable - we've grown up in the Western healthcare paradigm where distance healing sounds like it's from a magical realm. I'm passionate about sharing my perspectives as a PhD scientist, mind-body medicine instructor and practitioner to help open doors for all of us to share the distance healing potential of the BodyIntuitive/BodyTalk systems with everyone who needs them right now....so here goes!
I was meeting a friend for coffee and this question came up: What do you need? I have no difficulty asking that question and even providing what others need, but I have a lot of difficulty asking for what I need so much so that when asked, I often have no idea what to say.
After my brain injury, I was asked this question a lot, and I didn't know what to say. My friend asked me this question last week and I still had no idea what to say.
I stopped to think:
What do I need?
And then my brain starts editing: what is a worthy need? What am I worthy of asking for? Does she really care about what I need?
All these questions are byproducts of programming that tells me my needs are not important. ⠀⠀⠀
So I checked in with my heart: What do I need?
I need help developing a few class ideas I have.
I need words of encouragement.
I need to know I'm not alone.
I need to know I can do this.
I need to know there are people on my side.
I need a a few hugs. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I don't necessarily "need" anything, but those are the things I consistently need.
Another aspect complicating this, is not trusting others to give us what we need. Past experiences of others denying us, mocking us, belittling us when we asked for what we need prevents us from reaching out and asking for help. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
All of these entrained stories can be addressed through BodyTalk and acupuncture and we can heal these deeply held stories and create room for healing, safety, asking, and the ability to trust others with our needs. ⠀⠀⠀
What do you need today?
We've been listening to our bodies ever since we were in utero. After we were born we listened to it tell us when it was hungry, too warm, or too cold.
When we grew up, we listened to our bodies tell us when we could trust someone and not another. We listened when it said we were safe or in a dangerous situation. We even listened when it told us you to wear that red shirt instead of the blue one.
We've been listening for so long we've forgotten what listening is.
BodyIntuitive and BodyTalk allow us a space in which we can listen to what's going on in our body - deeply listening for what it needs for healing.
What are other places that allow this space? Meditation, prayer, painting, hiking, dancing?
Those are great spaces, but sometimes our brain hijacks the information we get- squashing it, criticizing it, dismissing it. Sometimes we don't trust that we are listening accurately. Sometimes we are so deep in our darkness that we can't see the light, thus limiting our ability to listen.
That's why seeing an objective observer, a practitioner, who's trained to navigate your body's Priority for healing is so important.
Your body is so smart and knows what it needs for healing at any given time.
Do you have a practitioner who listens?
Selfcare is being mindful of what you listen to, what you read, and what you eat.
Our 5 senses interpret the information all around us and in turn also informs the functions within our bodies as well. The 5 senses are the physical and subtle ability of the body to interpret Our five senses interpret information from all around us and, in turn, contribute to the functions happening within our bodies.
The way the brain makes sense of what's coming in through our senses, what it stores, what it makes things mean, and what it ignores, is cultivated throughout our lifetime, but most persistent and long lasting patterns, behaviors, and interpretations of how to navigate life, are set when we are young, experiencing new things and learning about life and the people and things around us.
Even though our interpretations and opinions of the world are set when we are young, it doesn't mean it's too late to switch up the incoming information. As adults we have more options, more choices, and a little more control over the input than when we were kids. Switching up the input enables us to RESET the unhealthy patterning that was established when we were young.
Do you want to be more accepting and loving of yourself?
Do you want to experience more joy on a daily basis?
Do you want to enjoy your work and feel satisfied in your career?
Do you want to have deep fulfilling relationships with your family, spouse, and children?
Sometimes, all it takes is changing the information that's coming in.
Eliminating 'toxicity' in our lives can include changing the music we listen to, reading different books and magazines and limiting the impact toxic people have in your life.
You can cause what's coming in and have that 'diet' be nourishing, supportive, and fulfilling on all levels.
You have the power to end generational trauma
It's up to us to break generational curses. When they say, 'It runs in the family, you tell them, 'This is where it runs out.
My own journey of healing myself and my family story of childhood sexual abuse was a long and winding one.
When I was young we didn't talk about it except on one specific occaision when my mom couldn't avoid it any longer. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The story was then compounded by having my first baby when I was still so young - just 19.
And the question slowly emerged over time as two more babies shortly came into our family. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
How do I raise whole humans when I am not whole myself? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I remember one specific evening not long after my first BodyTalk training. I was sitting in my tiny living room with my three teenagers laying around me, and I was going from one to the other practicing Bodytalk on them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And as they lay around me breathing deeply, relaxed, quiet, and feeling their body's breath and how that breath connects them to each other-
I realized that my healing is their healing and their healing is my healing.
I knew in that moment that this is why I am their mom.
I became a healer to end the story of trauma in our family.
And they chose me to be their mom because they knew that story would stop here.
In the living room of my tiny apartment. The story stops here.
Our family legacy will now be the passing on of generational healing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It doesn't mean that bad things will never happen to them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But it does mean that that they already know what it is to be whole and they already have access to the tools so trauma doesn't perpetuate or recycle itself like it does in so many other stories. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
They got this. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We got this.
The brain stores information for future use. It's a survival mechanism designed to keep us safe from danger, or threat.
Example: You touch a hot stove for the first time- your brain stores that information for the future. "Don't touch hot things. It hurts."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But the problem is that the brain's mechanism for storing information is often arbitrary. That's why some people seem to move on quickly from traumatic events and others have a harder time. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The other reason why moving on from trauma can be difficult is because not all the information gets stored in the brain. It can be stored in the diaphragm, the connective tissue, the bones, organs, skin, or energetic centers like chakras or energy meridians.
But the first step to healing is getting the brain updated to what's happening now. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
To stop the brain from making choices based on old and outdated information.
You may be operating on outdated software if you: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
All of these things are treatable without drugs or a prescription, and our work together is specifically tailored to your unique needs and life experiences. ⠀
Acupuncture is a subtle, non-invasive way to help the body resolve, move, and heal trauma.
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