I was meeting a friend for coffee and this question came up: What do you need? I have no difficulty asking that question and even providing what others need, but I have a lot of difficulty asking for what I need so much so that when asked, I often have no idea what to say.
After my brain injury, I was asked this question a lot, and I didn't know what to say. My friend asked me this question last week and I still had no idea what to say.
I stopped to think:
What do I need?
And then my brain starts editing: what is a worthy need? What am I worthy of asking for? Does she really care about what I need?
All these questions are byproducts of programming that tells me my needs are not important. ⠀⠀⠀
So I checked in with my heart: What do I need?
I need help developing a few class ideas I have.
I need words of encouragement.
I need to know I'm not alone.
I need to know I can do this.
I need to know there are people on my side.
I need a a few hugs. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I don't necessarily "need" anything, but those are the things I consistently need.
Another aspect complicating this, is not trusting others to give us what we need. Past experiences of others denying us, mocking us, belittling us when we asked for what we need prevents us from reaching out and asking for help. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
All of these entrained stories can be addressed through BodyTalk and acupuncture and we can heal these deeply held stories and create room for healing and asking and safety and the ability to trust others with our needs. ⠀⠀⠀
What do you need today?
BodyIntuitive and BodyTalk allows us a space in which we can listen to what's going on in your body - really listening for what it needs for healing.
What are other places that allow this space? Meditiation, prayer, painting, hiking?
Those are great spaces, but often times our brain hijacks the information we get- squashing it, criticizing it, dismissing it. Sometimes we don't trust that we are listening accurately. Sometimes we are so deep in our own darkness that we can't see the light.
That's why seeing an objective observer, a practitioner, who's trained to navigate your body's Priority for healing is so important.
Your body is so smart and knows what it needs for healing at any given time.
Do you have a practitioner who listens?
⠀Food is just information for our bodies. It informs metabolic processes, initiates Our 5 senses, the physical and subtle ability of the body to interpret the information around us, are highly tuned, highly active, and highly susceptible to input.⠀
The way the brain makes sense of what's coming in through our senses, what it stores, what it makes things mean, and what it ignores, is cultivated throughout our lifetime, but most persistent and long lasting patterns, behaviors, and interpretations of how to navigate life, are set when we are young, experiencing new things and learning about life.
But just because our interpretations and opinions of the world are set when we are young, doesn't mean it's too late to switch up the incoming information. As adults we have more options, more choices, and a little more control over the input than when we were kids. Switching up the input enables us to RESET the unhealthy patterning that was established when we were young.
Do you want to be more accepting and loving of yourself?
Do you want to experience more joy on a daily basis?
Do you want to enjoy your work and feel satisfied in your career?
Do you want to have deep fulfilling relationships with your family, spouse, and children?
Sometimes, all it takes is changing the information that's coming in.
Eliminating 'toxicity' in our lives can include changing the music we listen to, reading different books and magazines and limiting the impact toxic people have in your life.
You can cause what's coming in and have that 'diet' be nourishing, supportive, and fulfilling on all levels.
It's up to us to break generational curses. When they say, 'It runs in the family, you tell them, 'This is where it runs out.
My own journey of healing myself and my family story of childhood sexual abuse was a long and winding one.
When I was young we didn't talk about it except on one specific occaision when my mom couldn't avoid it any longer. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The story was then compounded by having my first baby when I was still so young - just 19.
And the question slowly emerged over time as two more babies shortly came into our family. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
How do I raise whole humans when I am not whole myself? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I remember one specific evening not long after my first BodyTalk training. I was sitting in my tiny living room with my three teenagers laying around me, and I was going from one to the other practicing Bodytalk on them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And as they lay around me breathing deeply, relaxed, quiet, and feeling their body's breath and how that breath connects them to each other-
I realized that my healing is their healing and their healing is my healing.
I knew in that moment that this is why I am their mom.
I became a healer to end the story of trauma in our family.
And they chose me to be their mom because they knew that story would stop here.
In the living room of my tiny apartment. The story stops here.
Our family legacy will now be the passing on of generational healing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It doesn't mean that bad things will never happen to them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But it does mean that that they already know what it is to be whole and they already have access to the tools so trauma doesn't perpetuate or recycle itself like it does in so many other stories. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
They got this. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We got this.
That's just how the brain works. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The brain stores information for future use. It's a survival mechanism that's designed to keep us safe from any threat, or perceived threat.
Example: You touch a hot stove for the first time- your brain stores that information for the future. "Don't touch hot things. It hurts."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But the problem is that the brain's mechanism for storing information is often arbitrary. That's why some people seem to be able to move on quickly from traumatic events and others have a harder time. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The other reason why moving on from trauma can be difficult is because not all the information is stored in the brain. It can also be stored in the diaphragm, the connective tissue, the bones, the organs.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But the first step to healing really is getting the brain updated to what's happening now. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
To stop the brain from making choices based on old and outdated information.
You may be operating on outdated software if you: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
All of these things are treatable without drugs and without a prescription, and our work together is specifically tailored to your unique needs and life experiences. ⠀
Acupuncture is a subtle, non-invasive way to help the body resolve, move, and heal trauma.
Message or call me to get a free introductory session.
Show that your beliefs about stress determine whether or not it's harmful to you.
New studies are out showing that there are two modes to stress. The harmful version is called Threat Stress.
Threat stress tells the body, "I'm overwhelmed," "I can't" and "I might die from this.'
Threat stress releases cortisol, the main hormone responsible for the body's stress response and coinciding negative health implications. Living in a state of chronic stress can create a range of health issues from migraines to heart disease, insomnia, and autoimmune conditions.
But studies are showing that a second kind of stress, Challenge Stress, can actually shift the bodies response system into creating greater health and wellbeing. Challenge stress is aptly named because it is created when we embrace the challenges in our life as opportunities to overcome and accomplish difficult tasks.
When we shift into Challenge stress mode, our cognitive functions improve and cortisol levels lower.
Challenge Stress tells the body, "This is hard, but I can do it!"
Here are a few articles that talk about the different kinds of stresses and tool you can use to shift your body's stress response.
Embracing Stress is More Important than Reducing Stress
Research Suggests that Stress only Damages Your Health if you think it does
Don't worry, be happy: Understanding Mindfulness Meditation
And of course, Acupuncture helps with that!
If you need more support to manage the stress in your life, let's get you on the schedule! Call me at 720-310-8525
I'm a mom of three phenomenal teenagers, a small business entrepreneur, a TBI Survivor, and childhood trauma survivor. I know what it takes to rebuild a life from devastating illness, and I want you to know you're not alone.