It's up to us to break generational curses. When they say, 'It runs in the family, you tell them, 'This is where it runs out.
My own journey of healing myself and my family story of childhood sexual abuse was a long and winding one.
When I was young we didn't talk about it except on one specific occaision when my mom couldn't avoid it any longer. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The story was then compounded by having my first baby when I was still so young - just 19.
And the question slowly emerged over time as two more babies shortly came into our family. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
How do I raise whole humans when I am not whole myself? ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
I remember one specific evening not long after my first BodyTalk training. I was sitting in my tiny living room with my three teenagers laying around me, and I was going from one to the other practicing Bodytalk on them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
And as they lay around me breathing deeply, relaxed, quiet, and feeling their body's breath and how that breath connects them to each other-
I realized that my healing is their healing and their healing is my healing.
I knew in that moment that this is why I am their mom.
I became a healer to end the story of trauma in our family.
And they chose me to be their mom because they knew that story would stop here.
In the living room of my tiny apartment. The story stops here.
Our family legacy will now be the passing on of generational healing. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
It doesn't mean that bad things will never happen to them. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But it does mean that that they already know what it is to be whole and they already have access to the tools so trauma doesn't perpetuate or recycle itself like it does in so many other stories. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
They got this. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
We got this.
That's just how the brain works. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The brain stores information for future use. It's a survival mechanism that's designed to keep us safe from any threat, or perceived threat.
Example: You touch a hot stove for the first time- your brain stores that information for the future. "Don't touch hot things. It hurts."⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But the problem is that the brain's mechanism for storing information is often arbitrary. That's why some people seem to be able to move on quickly from traumatic events and others have a harder time. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
The other reason why moving on from trauma can be difficult is because not all the information is stored in the brain. It can also be stored in the diaphragm, the connective tissue, the bones, the organs.⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
But the first step to healing really is getting the brain updated to what's happening now. ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
To stop the brain from making choices based on old and outdated information.
You may be operating on outdated software if you: ⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀⠀
All of these things are treatable without drugs and without a prescription, and our work together is specifically tailored to your unique needs and life experiences. ⠀
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Show that your beliefs about stress determine whether or not it's harmful to you.
New studies are out showing that there are two modes to stress. The harmful version is called Threat Stress.
Threat stress tells the body, "I'm overwhelmed," "I can't" and "I might die from this.'
Threat stress releases cortisol, the main hormone responsible for the body's stress response and coinciding negative health implications. Living in a state of chronic stress can create a range of health issues from migraines to heart disease, insomnia, and autoimmune conditions.
But studies are showing that a second kind of stress, Challenge Stress, can actually shift the bodies response system into creating greater health and wellbeing. Challenge stress is aptly named because it is created when we embrace the challenges in our life as opportunities to overcome and accomplish difficult tasks.
When we shift into Challenge stress mode, our cognitive functions improve and cortisol levels lower.
Challenge Stress tells the body, "This is hard, but I can do it!"
Here are a few articles that talk about the different kinds of stresses and tool you can use to shift your body's stress response.
Embracing Stress is More Important than Reducing Stress
Research Suggests that Stress only Damages Your Health if you think it does
Don't worry, be happy: Understanding Mindfulness Meditation
And of course, Acupuncture helps with that!
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The Problem vs What's actually happening
We started the massage and once I had my hands on him and instructed him to take a few deep breaths, I immediately knew that his breathing was dysfunctional. Instead of expanding through the chest and ribs, his breath was pushed down and out through his belly.
Now, belly breathing isn't necessarily dysfunctional. Yoga classes often incorporate belly breaths into class because it grounds and expands the breath throughout the body, but in this case, his body was doing belly breaths exclusively through the belly and from a place of survival. This pattern had shut down the ribs' ability to expand and contract, thereby affecting how the overlying structures, like the rhomboids and scapulas, were functioning, and this was creating the knots and tightness in his shoulders.
The other aspect of this dysfunctional breathing pattern goes back to his days of playing several impact sports through high school. He played soccer, hockey, and wrestling and had developed the tendency to hold his breath and brace for impact. This tendency translated into his body deciding, "This is how we deal with life- we hold our breath and wait for the impact."
This holding pattern was established while he was a teenager now it repeats itself as he navigates a stressful job, a pregnant and birthing wife, the responsibilities of fatherhood and being a provider, and now caring for a new baby.
So even though the problem is in his shoulders- that's where he experiences tightness and pain- what's actually happening is the limitation of the lungs, ribs, and breath to fully expand and contract and do their job providing a solid foundation for the structure and function of the ribs through the breath cycle, and integrate and accept the natural flow of life.
We made several releases, restored and balanced his body's view of dealing with life, and we were able to achieve quite a bit of expansion through the ribs and clavicle during inhalation, which in turn easily released the knots in the back and shoulders. He got off the table feeling immensely better and breathing deeper and ready for another session!
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I loved reading this quick list on ways to get unstuck! In my brain injury recovery process, depression has been, and sometimes still is, a factor I have to deal with on the regular.
Depression is a common occurrence for anyone dealing with Trauma of some kind. Trauma can reate shifts in brain chemistry and one key part of brain chemistry is the production and use of neurotransmitters, chemicals that have a direct effect on how we feel day to day and even moment to moment.
Interrupting this cycle of stuckness has been the second best tool (after acupuncture) I use to get me out of the depression cycle and into a better mental frame of mind.
My favorites from this list are:
3. “What makes me feel worse? Should I do something other than play the same game on my phone because it’s taking me down a dark road?”
My phone is the number one cause of over-stimulation and when my brain gets over stimulated I feel stuck, disconnected, and depressed. Setting down my phone, tapping out my Cortices (learn how to here), drinking some water, and eating a healthy snack is how I counteract this Stuck pothole.
4.“What stories am I telling myself?” Say them out loud or write them on paper. Hunt for the hyperbole in your thoughts and cross it out. It’s likely not that bad.
My work with BodyTalk and the brain has made me have a few huge realizations - there is no original thought in the brain, and the brain will always makes things out to be worse than they actually are. When I find myself stuck in my brain, the best way to interrupt it is to get out of my head. Fast!
I have a few close friends where we are willing listeners for each other. If any of us need to get out of our heads, spill our 'stories,' and get another point of view, we are just a phone call away. It's been super helpful to get unstuck and not carried away on the made-up story train of my brain.
20. Try not to fully isolate yourself. Being in the company of others can remind you that all is not lost.
I'll be honest, I like to be a hermit. But being a hermit isn't good for the psyche, the emotions, or my social life. I usually joke around that I don't like people, but as soon as I get out with my friends or meet new, interesting people, I find myself having a blast and really grateful that I took a risk and got out there. And I remember that I actually do like people! Plus getting some good belly laughs is always a great way to get unstuck and lift the feelings of depression.
21. Get up and move. Physical activity releases endorphins that make us feel better.
Endorphins are the body's natural feel good hormone. They aso counteract the effects of stress and relieve pain. They're so good at relieving pain that endorphins have been shown to be 10 - 200 times more powerful than morphine!
So whether it's talking a walk in the sun, getting on your bike, or discovering a new hobby like rock climbing, moving your body is one of the best ways to get mentally, and physically, untstuck.
Here's the complete article and be sure to check out the side boxes for more questions to get yourself unstuck.
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